Macedonian Weddings at Boulevard Room
Macedonian weddings are steeped in tradition and have a lot of beautiful rituals. This is a place where big, elaborate, luxury weddings are required and expected. Families go into deep debt to finance these celebrations. The wedding can last for days and surely will test your endurance! There are separate celebrations at the bride’s and the groom’s homes, along with the church ceremony, the wedding dinner, and the reception.
The day before the wedding, the women start off the celebration by gathering flowers for the arrangements at the bride’s home. There is much singing and dancing and fun to be had by all. Then the ladies proceed to bake the homemade bread, which is mixed with an apple topped wooden spoon. Apples are known to be a sign of love, and signifies that the bride and groom will never go hungry in their future years together. That night, a band comes to play for more singing and dancing.
Traditionally, on the morning of the wedding, the best man would use a sharp knife to shave the beard of the groom because it was assumed that he would be to nervous to shave without cutting himself. A band plays music and very ribald songs are sung and the groom is teased because he is losing his bachelorhood. Most of the jokes center around the difficulties of being married and having a wife.
The poem by Blaze Koneski describes the Macedonian wedding costumes: “Tear two threads from the heart, dear. One black, the other red, One spurring terrible sorrow, the other, desire, brightness and lust.” The traditional wedding costumes are rarely worn these days, as the brides prefer the western white wedding dress and color coordinated bridesmaids dresses. When the bride leaves her mother’s home, the mother and close female relatives cry and make a big fuss over the loss of the bride who will be joining the groom’s family. As the bride walks down the steps from her mother’s home, her mother pours a glass of water over the steps. This symbolizes her transition from daughter to wife and acts as a wish that the bride’s life flow as smoothly as the water rolling over the steps.
If at all possible, the route to the church will consist of all right turns. It is considered bad luck to make any left turns on the wedding day. The church service is usually an Orthodox ceremony that includes the Rite of Betrothal, which is the exchanging of the rings, and the Crowning, which is the placing of a crown or wreath on the heads of the bride and the groom, symbolizing the “give and take” required to make a marriage successful and the couple becoming the “kind and queen” of their own family within the God’s Kingdom.
After the church ceremony, a wedding dinner is held in the church’s community hall. A couple of hours after the dinner, the reception is held in a restaurant hall. One tradition is for the groom to dance with the ceremonial bread (baked earlier by the women of the family) and then to invite the bride to dance with him under the bread; then the public is invited to dance, and it goes on and on from there. When the couple leaves for their honeymoon night, the rest of the relatives help the mothers clean up their homes while singing and dancing.
Not many banquet halls can service the Macedonian cultural foods, but most importantly they can not accommodate a small function. The boulevard room was designed to host small weddings. The in house catering team can design a Macedonian menu to suit your taste and budget.